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Blogger of the Month: Kristen of Embrace Your Unicorn

Our blogger of the month from our list of Top Fertility Blogs is Kristen of Embrace Your Unicorn. This blog initially caught our eye when she linked to some of our content. We needed to know more—unicorn what? After reading most of her posts (a terrific use of time!), we wanted to share her story.

After being diagnosed with a number of issues (including a unicornuate uterus—get it?), Kristen is creating a supportive community for people with aspects of their lives —unicorns, if you will— that they are learning to accept.

Putting your life out there for public consumption isn't easy, but we are sure glad there are people like Kristen who are willing to go there. This is what she had to say about the process of blogging about fertility.

Q: Tell us about yourself

Hi! I’m Kristen, a speech language pathologist by day, blogger by night (and weekend and early morning). My life’s main mission: help people…and make ‘em smile while doing it. In my blog, I share my infertility story ever since being diagnosed with a unicornuate uterus…and low ovarian reserve…and endometriosis in May 2018. (Basically every diagnosis that makes it difficult to make a baby.) I aim to share my story in a light-hearted, informative, and authentic way.

My husband, Cory, and I live in Denver, Colorado. We are goofy: laughing until our stomachs hurt as we sing our family's theme song we wrote together. We are existential: dissecting life and our emotions and our experiences for hours at our small dinner table. We are sentimental: saving every theatre ticket and hand-written note left for one another. We are open: sharing our infertility experience, the highs, and the lows, the hilarious and the disappointing.

Q: How did your experience with infertility start and how has the story unfolded?

After six months of trying to get pregnant, my OBGYN put me on Clomid, a (usually) harmless ovulation-stimulating medication. I ended up developing ovarian cysts that became hemorrhagic (read: exploded) and were so heavy that my ovary started to rotate like a twisting a water balloon. Unable to control the pain, we raced to the ER. The pain radiated from my lower right abdomen around my side to my lower back. As if one Clomid-inspired devil wrung my insides like a wet towel while another stabbed me over-and-over with a red-hot fire iron.

After reviewing my MRI, the physician assistant came into my room and told me, without warning, that I had a “uterine abnormality” and that I was probably “infertile” because of it. BOOM. In the middle of my writhing pain, she decided to punch me in the gut with this diagnosis, a diagnosis she was unqualified to make and news she was inept at sharing. This was the day Cory and I stepped onto our infertility roller coaster. The past six months have been a blur of stressful ups and downs, of new diagnoses and hard decisions.

Now for our infertility journey a nutshell:

  • I was diagnosed as having a unicornuate uterus, low ovarian reserve (AMH: 0.54) and endometriosis.
  • In August 2018, we started our first IVF cycle. Because of my poor egg quality, we only had one genetically normal embryo from the first round of IVF (better than none!). And because my type of uterus has a 37% miscarriage rate, we decided to do a second round of IVF to try to get a couple more embryos just in case.
  • We finished our second cycle in November 2018.

In the middle of my writhing pain, she decided to punch me in the gut with this diagnosis, a diagnosis she was unqualified to make and news she was inept at sharing.

Q: Why did you start blogging?

When I was diagnosed with a unicornuate uterus and obtained my new “unicorn” status, my life turned into a nightmare. It was not a lovely dream where a kind-hearted unicorn sings Julie Andrews-esque melodies and poops delicious rainbow frozen yogurt. In was a nightmare in which a Dr. Frankenstein-created evil unicorn ravages an unsuspecting village by shooting laser beams from her eyes and puncturing townspeople with her razor-sharp horn. The unicorn in this nightmare was unwelcomed, unexpected, angering, and the bearer of the most severe grief.

I started blogging to expel this literal and metaphorical unicorn nightmare from my mind. I used writing as a way to take the reins and break her in. That's the first reason I chose to start blogging: to help myself. But there was another motivator behind starting this blog: to help you. I started the blog to pave the way for you to embrace your "unicorns," the things in life that you’re learning to accept. Embrace Your Unicorn is a blog that uses the sharing of one’s story as a gateway to catharsis and to cultivate awareness, compassion, and community.

The unicorn in this nightmare was unwelcomed, unexpected, angering, and the bearer of the most severe grief.

Q: What are three words that describe your blog?

In my Embrace Your Unicorn Facebook group, I asked the members to describe my blog in three words. They responded with: funny, real, raw, honest, sweet, heartfelt, vulnerable, freaking hilarious, inclusive, safe, compelling, informative, inspirational. Reading those words felt like sweet hot chocolate and buttery mashed potatoes for my soul. Especially the words safe, vulnerable, and inclusive. (It was nice to hear that someone thinks I’m “freaking hilarious” too.)

Q: What's the story behind the name?

I started my blog as a way to process and learn to embrace my unicornuate uterus, and thus Embrace Your Unicorn was birthed! I also share my experiences learning to embrace my other “unicorns” including disordered eating/exercise recovery, anxiety, rheumatoid arthritis, and people-pleasing-perfectionism.

Q: What topic do you find yourself covering most often and why?

My blog primarily covers the topic of infertility. I predominantly share my journey with IVF and my unicornuate uterus, and my guest writers share their stories about a variety of other infertility topics including miscarriage, stillbirth, IUI, and unexplained infertility.

Since Embrace Your Unicorn is about learning to embrace all aspects of life that are challenging, other non-fertility topics have been covered include body image, eating disorder recovery, mental health (bipolar disorder, anxiety, grief), physical health (chronic pain), living as a highly sensitive person/empath, and teenage pregnancy.

Q: Who is your target reader?

My target reader is anyone walking through this messy experience of being a human. Anyone who wants to open their hearts to other people’s stories and grow their compassion. Anyone who wants to join a community of authentic, supportive, caring people.

Q: What's unique about your blog?

Every Wednesday I invite a guest writer to share her/his “unicorn story” on a range of topics. I love that there are multiple voices represented in the blog. Having guest writers and sharing others’ stories has taken Embrace Your Unicorn from being just a blog to a full-blown supportive community.

We have a private Facebook group in which members consistently show support and love for people sharing their raw humanness. It’s a beautiful thing.

Q: What was your most popular post ever? Why do you think it was popular with readers?

I have two top posts that have received an equal number of reads, “Genetic Testing Results” and “Embracing My Disordered Eating Recovery Story.

“Genetic Testing Results” was popular with readers because it had a mix of all the best ingredients: vulnerability, education, lightheartedness, and resolution of a cliffhanger (how many embryos did they get?!). I described the grief Cory and I felt when we learned that our first IVF cycle resulted in only one genetically normal embryo. I educated readers (in down-to-earth terms) on how embryos are graded. I confessed to buying four bottles of coffee creamer because my mind was so distracted. My readers responded with such love and support

My second and equally popular post, “Embracing My Disordered Eating Recovery Story,” was popular because of its vulnerability, rawness, and relatability. I shared how I started hating my body when I was only in elementary school and how it manifested to a harmful restrict-binge cycle and a bulimic episode when I was 30-years-old. My readers replied with a resounding, I feel the same way!

Q: What is the best thing about writing about infertility?

Every time I publish a blog post about my infertility struggles, I feel my shoulders relax and the heaviness that resides in my chest dissipate. I exhale the stress and inhale the freedom. The freedom that can only be found when your story no longer owns you.

Every time I publish a blog post, I feel like my mind’s prison guard hands me the keys and I free myself from my cell. When I emerge from the darkness of the prison, I feel the sun wrap its rays around me like a blanket. I look around me and see other prisoners escaping captivity. I am reminded that I am not alone. That separateness is an illusion. That togetherness is healing.

Every time I publish a blog post, I let go of infertility and take hold of community.

I exhale the stress and inhale the freedom. The freedom that can only be found when your story no longer owns you.

Q: What is the worst thing?

The worst thing about writing about infertility is that during a time in which I am supposed to keep my stress to a minimum, the act of putting myself out there for the world to see sometimes increases my stress levels because of perfectionist-driven obsession and fear of judgment.

A few weeks ago, I woke up at 12:30 AM in a complete panic. My thoughts raced, like a frenetic motorcycle darting between lanes on the highway. Everything is out there. My whole life…for all to see…for all to judge…is out there. Online. Nothing is private anymore. I felt embarrassed and exposed.

Despite the positive and encouraging feedback I have received from countless supporters, I still feel a tinge of insecurity and unease every time I hit the “share” button. Maybe it stems from the fear of judgment from faceless people behind their screens or the lack of acknowledgment of my posts or my fertility journey in general from a couple of my friends.

Q: What's the best tip you have to offer someone struggling with fertility issues?

Talk about it…with people you trust…in spaces you feel safe. Don’t let our patriarchal society tell you that you have to carry the burden of your struggles silently. Gently rebel by sharing your story and releasing yourself from your prison cell. You are not alone! Join us out here in the sunshine.

Talk about it…with people you trust…in spaces you feel safe.

Kelly Park

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