Starting off 2018 as our Blogger of the Month from our list of Top Infertility Blogs is James Doherty from the blog Scantily Dad. As James indicates below, one element that makes him unique in the blogging world is that he offers a much needed male perspective on the topic of infertility. We were drawn to James' blog because he has been so open about his experience with male infertility when there are still relatively few voices contributing to the conversation. Along with experiencing infertility and family building through in vitro fertilization (IVF), James has been through the premature birth of his children and parenting twins; now that's what we call a steep parenting curve. Here is James' take on blogging about infertility.
FS: What are three words that describe your blog?
Helpful, informative, useful. My long-term goal is to have the best parenting blog on the planet within 4 years. I know that it is a big ask but I' m working hard everyday to achieve this.
FS: Why did you start blogging?
I started blogging when my 10-week premature son was in the NICU and had a collapsed lung. I had to rush to the hospital from work and it felt wrong. Something needed to change and I did not want to be constrained to working for someone else. An idea came to me start a blog about our story through IVF and having premature babies. Now, I blog about all things parenting and in two years I will live full time from the blog.
FS: What's the story behind the name?
The name is a play on words from the saying "scantily clad" and represents my infertility. Scantily means not enough and physically, I felt as though I was not enough of a man to be a father and we had to go through IVF to have our family.
FS: What topic do you find yourself covering most often and why?
I started with infertility, then went on to having preemies and now I write about all things parenting. 2018 is a big year for me and I will be writing a lot of product reviews to help parents find the best products for their family.
FS: Who is your target reader?
You would think that my target reader would mostly be fathers but they only represent 15% of my readership. Most of my readers are US women between the ages of 25-45.
FS: What's unique about your blog?
Each and every blog is unique but mine stands out as there are not too many men that blog about fertility and premature babies. These two subjects are what got me started on my blogging journey.
FS: What was your most popular post ever? Why do you think it was popular with readers?
The most popular post is the next steps after fertility treatment. It seems to have resonated with parents of preemies and hopefully, it helped some of them through those difficult times.
FS: What is the best thing about writing about infertility?
That I am genuinely helping people. It took a lot of courage to start writing about such a personal subject. It was really difficult for me and I will never forget how nervous I was when I clicked publish on that first post. In hindsight, it was one of the best decisions of my life. Blogging has taught me so much about myself.
FS: What is the worst thing?
There is nothing bad about it in my eyes. It can be difficult to manage blogging with a full-time job and twins but it is totally worth it.
FS: What's the best tip you have to offer someone struggling with fertility issues?
Stay strong, work as a team and never give up. In the words of Oscar Wilde: “Everything is going to be fine in the end.If it's not fine it's not the end.”