{"id":75118,"date":"2017-09-12T00:00:00","date_gmt":"2017-09-12T00:00:00","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/www.fertilitysmarts.com\/2017\/09\/12\/6-simple-ways-to-be-an-infertility-advocate"},"modified":"2023-11-09T22:45:12","modified_gmt":"2023-11-09T22:45:12","slug":"6-simple-ways-to-be-an-infertility-advocate","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.fertilitysmarts.com\/6-simple-ways-to-be-an-infertility-advocate\/2\/1674","title":{"rendered":"6 Simple Ways to be an Infertility Advocate"},"content":{"rendered":"

When I was deep in the trying to conceive<\/a> trenches, the thought of being an infertility advocate was the furthest thing from my mind. I couldn\u2019t tell most of my friends and family what we going through because of my embarrassment.<\/p>\n

I look back at that time and remember a lot of crying, binge-watching Ru Paul\u2019s Drag Race (there were never any pregnancy plotlines, which I appreciated), and curtains blocking out the sun. I was buying maxi pads and pregnancy tests at the same time. I avoided anyone who I even suspected would ask me when I was having kids and being around fertile myrtles made me feel what I can only describe as ‘stabby.’<\/p>\n

Read: <\/strong>8 Ways to Deal with Fertile Myrtle Jealousy<\/strong><\/a><\/p>\n

When I imagined being an infertility advocate, I saw it as really putting yourself out there <\/em>and boldly educating others (the fertile public, Congress, your HR department, etc.) about your struggles and the realities of infertility. The crying, bloated, watching the Logo channel while clutching Always maxi pads with wings version of me didn\u2019t fit this picture.<\/p>\n

It was only after I stopped treatment and achieved a resolution (in my case, I had a son through in vitro fertilization (IVF) and another through an insane amount of random and unexpected luck) that I felt comfortable with being open about my roller coaster ride.<\/p>\n

Step by step, I slowly began speaking at conferences, meeting with my local representatives, writing pieces for various online magazines and websites, and all in all, raising awareness among my friends, family, and the fertile public.<\/p>\n

What I\u2019ve learned from being on both sides of the private\/public infertility coin is that I do think there\u2019s a way for everyone to be an advocate in a manageable way, wherever you are in your trying to conceive efforts. You can speak at a press conference (as I have done regarding creating access to fertility treatment) or <\/em>you can speak privately to your well-intentioned relative who wants to know why you\u2019re not pregnant yet. It\u2019s possible to fight a good fight with either guns blazing or with quiet little sparklers from the comfort of your couch. In this spirit, here are six suggestions on how you can make an impact as an infertility advocate.<\/p>\n

1. Social Media<\/h2>\n

OK\u2026 before some of you recoil in horror, let me share with you how I slowly snuck out of the infertility closet. It was primarily on Twitter where I came up with an anonymous handle (@the2weekwait<\/a>, which is not anonymous anymore, obviously). If you look on Twitter, you will find quite a few accounts along those lines. They are a private and protected safe space where you can connect with others in the infertility community, support one another, and help educate any infertility newbies.<\/p>\n

2. Write a Letter to Congress or Your Local Representative<\/h2>\n

While it\u2019s true that you\u2019ll have to sign your name, it\u2019s still an opportunity to privately advocate on your behalf for both you and others like you who need access to fertility treatment. While some states require insurance coverage for infertility like IVF, most states don\u2019t. If Congress and Reps are hearing regularly from the community informing them that their constituents are directly impacted, it can make a huge difference in what legislation passes and what doesn\u2019t.<\/p>\n

3. Write a Letter to your Human Resources Department<\/h2>\n

This is a touch more personal depending on how big your company is and\/or how well you know your HR representative. If you visit the website for Resolve, the National Infertility Association, they have sample<\/a> letters you can personalize. Similar to the above, if your company knows that an infertility benefit will help retain top talent and\/or help existing employees feel better about their company (and be less stressed about how they are going to pay for treatment so they can better focus on their job), they will listen. Resolve also provides data points you can share with your benefits team that will help convince them.<\/p>\n

4. Participate in Resolve Events<\/h2>\n

And speaking of Resolve<\/a>, there are many opportunities they organize for you to be involved with. There\u2019s the Walk of Hope, support groups, Advocacy Day, National Infertility Week, etc. While this entails getting out of bed (which again, is something I struggled with), these are all safe spaces where you can connect in real life with others who have had similar experiences. Trust me \u2013 it\u2019s humbling and motivational to talk to people who get<\/em> it.<\/p>\n

5. Advocate for Your Own Reproductive Health<\/h2>\n

Sometimes, simply being your patient advocate is one of the most powerful things you can do. Do you suspect you have endometriosis or PCOS? Do your research, record your symptoms, and see a reproductive endocrinologist armed with insight! Do you know if a freeze-all cycle would be beneficial to you? Are you aware of Single Embryo Transfer? Do you understand preimplantation genetic screening (PGS)<\/a> and whether it\u2019s something you should consider? The more you know, the more you can take an active role in your fertility treatment.<\/p>\n

6. Share Your Infertility Experience<\/h2>\n

Whether it\u2019s with a therapist, your spouse or partner, in your journal, on a blog, with others in a support group (online or in-person), with your friends and family (or just the ones you feel will be supportive), or even if it\u2019s just one trusted cycle buddy, I encourage you to share your experience. Even if you are not changing laws or company policy, sharing your experience can be a grassroots effort toward changing minds and educating others in your social circle and beyond.<\/p>\n

Read: <\/strong>Why I Choose to be Open About My Infertility<\/strong><\/a><\/p>\n

I know if ‘me now’ was talking to ‘me then’ saying, Hey! You should totally be out there advocating!<\/em>\u00a0I would have punched ‘me now’ in the face. You can\u2019t force anyone to share their story nor should you. Everyone must decide what they want to be open with or not, but<\/em> I do feel compelled as the ‘ghost of fertility advocacy future’ to let you know that when I started being more vocal, connecting with others, and sharing my story, I began to see the power in advocacy. It was a healing process and made me feel that while infertility may have kicked me in the ovaries, I was now able to kick it right back.<\/p>\n

Whether your journey ends with children or not, there is something incredibly satisfying and powerful about taking an issue so personal and important to you and pushing to make it better. Small efforts or big, you\u2019re saying, Wait a minute! There is no need to be embarrassed about this! It\u2019s a medical disease and not a personal failure. And people need to know that!<\/em><\/p>\n

I didn\u2019t get that then and I wish I did. So whatever your comfort zone is, I do encourage you to at least do one thing that makes you feel like you\u2019re taking a stand, in your ownway and on your own terms, to be an infertility advocate.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

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